Ego vs Reality

Ever play the SIMS? It's a remarkable computer game! About a decade ago when they first came out with the older type of computers, one was only able to construct buildings. Today's version is ever so intricate and detailed; you literally are in control of an entire person's life! In this game you can not only build your house, but buy beds, couches, appliances and food to put in your refrigerator! You can go to work, school or the spa on a bicycle or your very own car. You can court and woo your neighbour or someone you may have met while fishing. Get abducted by aliens and tell everyone about it. Have sexual relations with a guy or girl; or as they call it a 'Woo-Hoo' and even adopt a child or animal or become pregnant! As I say, the game is pretty remarkable…however it isn't reality. In the SIMS, the ego runs their life. They yell and wave their hands to your computer screen if they want you to buy them new things or need help doing something. We may wish that life in the 'real world' could be so simple; by waving our hands in the air and complaining, everything will get fixed too.

Our world/life thank-fully is to a great extent more complex. If you complain to the Universe about something, we will simply attract more of that into our lives…if we in turn give thanks and show happiness to the Universe then also we can attract more things like that in our lives. I know what you're saying right now…"But I didn't want to get into a car accident…" or "I surely didn't want to get hurt in this relationship…" or "I didn't want to attract all this debt!"…believe me darlings, I know exactly where you're coming from, but you must trust me when I say that …Yes! You are attracting these things into your life. I know it doesn't seem fair…but you don't have 'a player/someone' moving you around and doing as they fancy with your life! Sure, you have a creator, but how wonderful it is that he/she gives you free-will. With free-will you are able to make choices and go in different directions to get to that ultimate destination, or as I'd like to call it, the BIG graduation party in the sky; where you get to find out how well you've been graded in life!

The music you listen to, the friends you keep, the places you frequent, the television shows you must see are all vibrations that are being attracted to your life. You will become or attract like things into your life…It is a serious thing. Well it depends on how serious you are about your life anyway. If you are thinking that 'the world' or 'the system' is out to get you…and you constantly feed yourself that…then sure enough 'the system' won't give you peace. If you think that your life is to be like your parents or grandparents life, then sure enough…your life will be too. If you listen to music or watch films that speak of heart-ache and treachery and lost love…then yes, sure enough you will magnetize also similar aspects to your life.

"But I'm a good person, I don't deserve this!" You're right…you're right, you are a good person and you don't deserve this. But just as we have rules to follow in society, these are the rules of the Universe and once you understand it you can then flow in accord with it. If you want a happy life, treat people as you would like to be treated, do everything with love, be mindful and sincere and be careful not to harbour ill thoughts of jealousy or greed. Surround yourself with positive people and things. If you want to accomplish something…envelope yourself in it, spend time practicing…you will succeed.

I know many of you may say…"My life is not a game…it's not that easy!" Well, why do you complain so easily? Chris Martin from Coldplay sang…"Nobody said it was easy…nobody said it would be so hard…I'm going back to the stars…" Astonishing advice; because change is never easy, but it's always a good thing. And if you want to try something new in your life, by acting more positive, grateful and content and working towards a goal for even more great things, then you have to change your thinking or way of life from as old as you are today! You have to un-learn all those ill thoughts on which you functioned before and catch yourself anytime you tend to go back there. 'Going back to the stars' simply means going back to nature; which is an excellent way to still the ever-going mind and to center yourself and find peace. I know you can do it!

Sometimes it truly feels as though you're going through a series of unfortunate events, maybe you cannot fathom how you would ever attract that into your life because you don't surround yourself with drama and treat people how you want to be treated…and this…this may be the only time we can say that…things happen without question. As I mentioned before in an earlier blog, to get to a higher level, you have to go through different feats before garnishing the treasure and saving the princess. In other words, each step up the ladder comes with different obstacles you must overcome. So if you did get into that car accident…and you don't have the foggiest on how you could have attracted this into your life; the fact that you were able to walk away un-harmed and all intact, despite a bloodied leg, means, you've got a 2^nd chance, and it's only a test to see how resilient you can be and that you are indeed worthy or capable of handling greater obstacles before moving 'one up'. At least, that's how I like to think of it! J

On my last flight I met a fantastic girl; she being a flight attendant like myself…radiating beauty from within, a beauty that surpassed her outer-beauty because of the way she spoke and inspired me. She is from Thailand and we shared stories, as I have great memories of my visit there; we exchanged details and she offered to share more lovely places to explore and even to visit her family. I haven't had the opportunity to purchase the book as yet…but although I can't see it yet I say, "Money comes to me easily and all the time!" When that money does come I want to get that book she recommended entitled: Zero Limits. She said to cleanse my mind and thoughts and to attract more beautiful things in my life I should repeat these words: "Thank-you, I love you, Please forgive me, I'm sorry…" By telling the Universe these simple words/mantra, you are not only opening new doors but in fact showing gratitude and starting anew…

I do enjoy playing the SIMS, I laugh and coo at how much money I've got in the bank, the dates I go out on every night with my boyfriend named Stiles McGraw, the promotions I get at my job and the snazzy outfits I can change into at any given moment. What a lovely life it seems like; if only my 'real life' had all these material and comforting things too, I would think at times. But then there are the games that I play also where robbers steal from my home, the kitchen is set on fire, I am a mother of twins and my husband is too tired to do Woo-Hoo's with me and I don't have enough money to pay the farting nanny, who in turn runs off with my beloved computer. In real life I couldn't just complain and wave my hands up in the air with desperation! So there are 2 sides to every story, and I'm grateful that my life isn't as turbo speed as that game. I can attract things into my life, change directions and work at a steady pace. J

Every Bread have a Cheese

This is a saying from Trinidad & Tobago which means simply; that 'no matter how unattractive one is, there is someone, somewhere who will find that one beautiful. There is a matching partner for everyone, no matter how weird'. Seriously, I see it every day on the aircraft at work, couples happy and in love and together, squeezing hands through the turbulence. What a lovely sandwich eh? J

Sometimes in life we let our thoughts get the best of us; we suffer and succumb to that inner turmoil; of wondering and pondering on why, what, how come and when. We have no peace of mind and our emotions bring us down to zero. We feel hopeless and sad and as though what is the use of this life without that one thing that brought us added joy. Unfortunately most times, it is the thing that great prophets tell us to do the most; to simply, just love one another. But there are many different types of love. There is the love of our country, parents and children, of friends, of co-workers or classmates, and then there is the BIG one; of lovers, of boyfriend and girlfriend, or husband and wife, or boyfriend and boyfriend and wife and wife…these types of relationships with love tend to be a bit trickier.

I find even forgiving and having compassion for an enemy easier at times, than totally putting your heart on the line to love another who may accept it now and trash it later. The love I am speaking of is one that is forever, one that is true, and one that is unconditional, like a friendship on ecstasy! I marvel at my dear friends who put up with my reminiscing and constant re-visiting of something I have no control over whatsoever. How frustrating it is to know that even after giving your all, you lose grasp of something you were so sure was going to blossom into a future of great magnitude.

One must remember that it is important to be the master of your thoughts; without this practice we may continuously make our lives, literally, a living hell. The late and great John Lennon sang, 'Let it Be' and the infamous Bob Marley sang of three little birds that visited his window sill singing, "Don't Worry About a Thing!" As strong as I think I am, I am still on a journey of growth and healing and I find prayer and meditation quite useful in giving me the calm and positive vibe I need. I sometimes sit with a question, or most times as life is quite a ride, a pleading of sorts. I asked recently, "What do you want from me!?" And sure enough the answer came, "I want you to trust me!"

I didn't identify completely with this before, but after doing more reading, prayer, and meditation, it became much clearer on what it is my lesson was about. Countless times I have witnessed miracles, and I am aware of its magnificence, and promised myself at those moments that I shouldn't have doubt or negative thoughts again, because of this bizarre brilliance known to us by the name 'Miracle'. However, as brisk and immense as it came, as quick did I forget and begin brooding again. I realized that Trust meant that I should trust that everything would be alright. How many times have we worried and paced and stressed over situations and in the end everything turned out for the best?

The Universe/Supreme Being/God wanted me to not only trust myself, my opinions and my greatness, but to know that whatever I was going through was only a small hurdle in the much, much bigger scheme of things/life, that whatever I was going through was only a test and certainly not the final. We need to surrender more and let go of things which we ultimately have little control over. Meditation helps us still the mind and in this purification process, truth and trust are revealed to us, time and time again, we must trust, and do so with grace. There is more to this journey than we are even aware of, and when we have trust we eliminate all doubt and anxiety. When we trust, surrender and let go, then we finally begin to know…the truth.

It is easier said than done though, we all know this; the ego is so strong in most of us; our humanistic and petty behaviours take control usually and put us in a definite slump. But we have to shake it off; we have to keep positive, we have to let go.

My grandmother often says: "Bless everything!" & "Do your best and let God do the rest!" and how right she is in what she says. Once you do the right thing with a good heart, then you have nothing to worry about. Don't look for rewards; they will come but when the time is right. Sometimes in life, the timing is not right, but after people go through further lessons, jump through hurdles or close chapters to books, then they are able to see things differently. They surrender and let go of things and see things in a whole different perspective that they were blind to before. Sometimes people need to get into unhealthy situations to redeem themselves and heal their lives. We are all on different levels, learning, and moving towards hopefully a better us! J

I cannot melt my cheese, or burn my bread, because when you have such a special sandwich and you know it and feel it and get a small but splendid taste of it, you know it's your favourite sandwich no matter what other baguettes, scones or burritos one tosses your way. So you place your bread and cheese in the fridge and you wait. Don't get me wrong; you shouldn't just sit there waiting and hoping that your bread or cheese will wise-up, but you put it in there, knowing that you'll resolve or have it before its expiration date. In the mean time, you could travel down to the supermarket, or the local shop, and try other delicacies that vendors may offer you. When you let go/surrender/trust that everything will be alright, so many doors open for you; beautiful, exotic, friendly and tasty doors that invite you into a whole new world of flavor.

Remember, you cannot force anything in life, sometimes when you try too hard, you end up just getting a nervous breakdown; and you also cannot force somebody to love you. Would you want them, if they still had unresolved issues that they preferred to deal with anyway? Maybe one day the timing will be right and you'll get what you've been trying so hard to attain, or maybe one day that person you adore will realize how untainted your thoughtfulness and kindness and devotion was; that all you truly wanted was to love and be loved. Surround yourself with what you love, learn new songs on your steel-pan (drum), finish taking those French language lessons, buy the new SIMS game for your computer, tighten those scripts that you soon will be able to produce, master those belly-dance moves, or take that trip you've always wanted to Turkey, Cuba, Chile or Egypt! J

I finally am learning to trust…not by taking sweets from strangers – [haha] (although I do quite enjoy white and milk chocolate); but trusting in my higher-self, my Creator, and in the Universe that I am a child of purity, light and beauty and I deserve someone that can identify, share and grow in that radiance with me. I am not saying I still don't yearn to have my bread and cheese with a lovely glass of wine, but we must try this 'trust' thing, because we never know how many people are falling in love with our spirits and our smiles! J

Remember, happiness grows at our own firesides, and is not to be picked in stranger's gardens. – Douglas Jerrold