Portrait of a Lady

I remember flipping through a magazine one day, as passengers on my flight were deplaning and being appalled at the vulgar images displayed by a certain 'Star'. She said that she believed her body was 'a work of art' and indeed she was beautiful, but it discombobulated me as to why she felt she had to expose her 'art' to the world! 

You do not have to show everything.

There is beauty in mystery…there is elegance in secrets…there is excitement in whispers. Why is it society feels that they must shout and relinquish everything they are?! To prove what!?? Yes, it's true that 'sex sells', and everyone wants a piece of the action; but if you show everything…will one, not lose their beauty, their appeal, and become second-rate or dull?

Troubled and half-witted this 'Star' is no doubt, she has automatically entered a realm where she will never be respected as a 'Lady'. The comments superseding her photo-shoot also expressed disgust and the lowering of the magazine's standards to have her 'Grace' their cover. Indeed, there is nothing graceful with the suggestive poses she portrayed. Some don't care to carry the title of 'Lady'; but it's because they don't understand  or will never understand the sacredness of what it means; the sacredness of what 'our beings' mean. One's body is their temple - what you put in, you get out…whether it be food, exercise or practice. When you abuse it, and disrespect it, that's what you attract into your life, and if it's attention you crave, you'd most certainly be inveigling the wrong kind.

Many are lost and slaves to the new world of 'instant-gratification', 'instant-attention', 'insta-life' paths. They hunger for followers to join them on their seemingly easy path to happiness. They don't see how they could survive if it all was swept away. True love is accepting a person for what they are…their quirks, their meekness, their strengths, their short-comings. You don't have to show everything to gain acceptance, or pretend you're something your'e not to gain fans. People should respect, value and love you based on your talent, your friendship, your truths, on you, simply being you! Don't forget your worth darlings! It shouldn't be based on your body or looks…for they fade with time…it's your heart and soul that matters. That is the true work of art…that is what you should expose with example! :))

Reflect

40 days and 40 nights can fly by for most; in fact months and years can fly by for most; but during Lent we must make time to reflect on what its true meaning is in our lives. We must make time to reflect on how we want our lives to be. Many times we settle, because we are afraid, we listen to negative comments made by others and it intimidates us. Our destiny, our greatness is too great to stifled by the nonsense uttered by others. Don't be distracted darlings, keep focused on your goals.

Happiness is sometimes a slippery feeling…and she evades you if you're not careful. When she's there, enjoy her for what she is - be grateful - be gentle. Everything in moderation, for if you try to 'one-up' her, she will quickly invite her friend 'Sadness'. Happiness starts from within and grows when you help others. You can't find Happiness in money, possessions or anywhere else.

During Lent and this final holy week, we remember the path taken by Jesus. He taught us that before we receive our BIG blessings in life, that we must be brave and patient in passing firstly our small tests of faith. Jesus had a selfless love; he put his needs second for the love of mankind. This is how we should strive to live also; putting God/our Creator first; trusting that he knows whats best for us and in the best timing. After all we do not see the entire masterpiece … but only bit by bit as it carefully and perfectly unfolds.

Enjoy the silence … and make time for prayer and meditation … you'll see that you are exactly where you are supposed to be at this very moment in time. Leave your guilt, your past, and your anxiety and worries at the door. Enter into light, truth and the rebirth of the new, whimsical you! :))

Bless-up!

Love Jair

Heart

** This tune's got heart...got soul...got life...

Get yours...

It's yours to live - go with the flow... :))

Strange Circus

Written and directed by one of Japan's most controversial film-makers and poets, Shion Sono; comes one of the most disturbing yet exquisitely fascinating foreign films I've had the pleasure of seeing. The story, so haunting and grotesque it brings tears, intrigue and loathing all at once, its easy to see why this 2005 drama-mystery-horror was as captivating and brilliant as it was!

I love the idea of using poetry to express feelings that are difficult to say in the open; as well as using redundancy and flash-backs to help move the story forward with strengthened clarity. The soundtrack also pivoted the film to brilliance as it's haunting beautiful melodies etched a grief-stricken ugly truth of it's main characters. Starring sensationally first-class actors, Masumi Miyazaki, Issei Ishida and Rie Kuwana.

With a run-time of 108 minutes, this story shines light on dysfunctional families, mental instability, perversion and lost child-hood. Told in the only provocative yet sincere way Sono can; this film leaves its audience marveled, appalled yet entranced into wanting to know what happens next. Certainly not suited for younger viewers but a delightful work of art for those who can stomach it. More shocking than frightful, this film has made the 'Journey with Jair' recommended film list! :))

I'll leave you with some of my favourite lovely monologues from this film:

"Your body is a beautiful vase...flowers reflect my soul. I want to be a vase that compliments the flowers..."

"I was waiting to be executed from the time I was born...I was twelve years old when I became my mother and my mother became me..."

Everything Must Go

"Normal?"

"What's normal?"

"What happened?"

"Life happened."

Based on a short-story by the late Raymond Carver and adapted into screenplay and first writer-director debut by Dan Rush, this 2010 comedy-drama seemed more heavy-hearted and morose than anything else. Starring funny-man American Will Ferrell, Michael Pena who some might remember from 'Crash', English Rebecca Hall (The Town) and newcomer 'Kenny' played by Christopher Wallace, this film was more thought-provoking and serious than stirring any side-splitting laughs. Picked up by 'Lions Gate' and made for approximately $5 million USD it was a decent effort at showing that despite everything - all hope is never lost.

A bit slow-moving, but wonderful acting abilities displayed by Ferrell, the audience gets a feel of reality without the hollywood explosions and over-sized mammary glanded actress'. 'Lost is a good place to find yourself' and certainly a test in our strength, character and resilience.

Great story, some brilliant dialogue, honorable execution, but perhaps not the best direction; I felt that although characters were charming, each one should have pivoted the story forward instead of our viewers being stuck as our main character was day in and day out. Silence and less dialogue in film is welcomed, but not if it doesn't hold our spectators or keep the story interesting. There were some dry patches of humour but I find it hard to see other's pain comical at all.

Trespass

This is just another classic example that goes to show, that $35 million USD, can gross only $24,094 and be pulled from the cinema in only 10 days; and that Oscar-winner actors and even an award-winning director cannot make a bad story sensational. I was never really a fan of Nicholas Cage, but I'm sorry to say, that despite Joel Shumacher's direction, and Aussie Nicole Kidman's competence, this film still didn't have a chance.

2011's crime-drama-thriller 'Trespass' had all the makings of excellence, except a meritorious tale; written by Karl Gajdusek, it lacked sensibility and believable desperation. It was almost comical to see how the group of villains were the least of team-players and the many instances of pre posterous interruptions that took place time and time again. Liana Liberato is making waves with her young career and plays 'Avery Miller' quite cannily like that of her 'mother' played by Nicole Kidman. Without them, the film would seem utterly un-exciting or transformed into a proper comedy.

I also felt that the soundtrack wasn't as jolting or inspiring as it could have been, as often times music assists in delivering brilliance. Rated R for violence, terror, adult language and some drug use; this film may be a good example of 'what not to do' until you have a solid story.

Trust

This 2010 drama-thriller, isn't the first of its kind. There have been scores of films and countless unfortunate situations that have been reported and seen lately. Living now in an instant gratification and socially technological society it is more difficult to build lasting and real relationships and those who know technology better than anyone else are the same ones that fall victim to perverted adults.

This version was carefully detailed and the acting by English heart-throb Clive Owen, Catherine Keener and teenage Liana Liberato all brought this story to life in a very special way. It wasn't just shining light on the crime, but instead delving into the family-life and home after all is said and done; how a family can change overnight and hope to heal after immense un-settling circumstances. Directed by David Schwimmer (whom you may remember as 'Russ' from the television series 'Friends') and lending her acting expertise Viola Davis (Oscar nominee and star in 'Doubt' and 'The Help' to name a few) this movie easily stood out from the others.

This film is disturbing to the max, has violence, adult language and sexual situations, but shows the shocking reality of what the modern-day teenager has to deal with. With a budget of $9 million USD, the film was expertly executed, however didn't make back even half at the box-office. Still, I find it's message and severity of the situation pertinent to all parents, families and those un-aware of the sick strangers lurking more closely than we dare to imagine.