Tuesday, November 15, 2011

The 5 Languages of Love

I had first heard about the 5 Languages of Love several years prior from a wonderful aunt who had discovered it and was telling my family and I about it; and from then I'd wanted to learn more but hadn't had the book or messages come to me more rapidly. Here I am years later and I mention it to one of my flight mates, and she smiles, digs into her tote-bag and allows me to read through it.


Talk about preparation for the lucky guy who ends up with me! J Heaps of useful information in a very easy-to-read format; all thanks to author and psychologist Gary Chapman. He teaches couples and people that are married that we all have different ways of showing love and accepting/receiving love, and if we make a constant effort to show love in the ways our mate prefers it, it will make for a match fantastic and rid of silly problems!


The 5 Languages of Love he speaks about are:

  1. WORDS OF AFFIRMATION – This helps your mate's image and self-confidence by giving compliments to show that you admire and appreciate them in your life.


  2. QUALITY TIME – Being together and spending un-divided time and attention with a person, turning off the television with 'Dancing with the Stars' and really listening to what your mate is saying.



  3. GIFTS – In different cultures, giving gifts is a powerful way of showing that you care. Don't forget birthdays and anniversaries, be attentive and don't make your mate feel un-loved or neglected. Surprise them with something special.


  4. ACTS OF SERVICE – Doing something that requires time and creativity and even if it may be something small, you know that it would help your mate take a load off. It shows that you appreciate them by making dinner on some nights or mowing the lawn.



  5. PHYSCIAL TOUCH – Holding hands, kissing, massages, go a long way. Why do we hug each other if someone feels down, offering and presenting this type of love, is a popular way of showing your affection.


Following these steps can turn a relationship in trouble into something special and bright. It may not be easy but if you make the effort and your wish is to honestly try for improvement, it's guaranteed to invoke some type of change. J

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