Perspective

I've been wanting to write about this topic for quite some time. How shall one truly appreciate or respect something they have differing perspectives; or a skewed point of view?

Let's take this first example; what does truth mean to you? Some say, that truth hurts, according to Improv experts, they say that truth is funny, others swear that speaking the truth only backfires? But I find that it may depend on what exactly this truth is.

Life is all about different perspectives, how is it that an elephant be afraid of a minute mouse? Some of you may think, "Oh but that's a story!" Well, how is it that adults are afraid of spiders? (I'm one of those, and it isn't because of the size, but maybe the fact that they've got multiple legs and EIGHT eyes!!!) Which is more superior? The elephant or the spider? Or are the mouse and human in fact equal?

Christians believe to have just a mustard seed worth/equivalent of faith, and it can certainly move great mountains or create grand miracles in one's life. So is it possible then also to have little money and try to feed an orphanage? For some, that's bullocks! And for others they can see it happen with brilliant budgeting skills!

Another example still, some people greatly dislike policemen, they groan in disgust if they see one nearby y, or make donut jokes. Yet when people are in danger's way or a victim of some unexpected dilemma, the policemen are the first people we expect to give us remedy!

The elderly are using up our tax money and our time. They drive slowly, they speak slowly, and they're suddenly senile and unworthy, thanks to one, two many wrinkles. But these are people just like you, who've worked hard their entire lives, and been married successfully even through the World Wars, Great Depression and Civil and Racist Wars, and all they get from their social security to survive on each month is $135.43 cents, which can't even cover lodging at a room in a senior home, medical assistance or a decent meal.

All days one should be grateful. For life, sunshine, or rain that waters our mountains, shelter, decent health, a job that pays the bills. However even on the greatest days, some days just turn out tremendously fanatical! One can only try their best to keep it together and still wear a smile, when their flight crew is arguing, when the captain says we don't have any water for our 4 hour flight, and you have to work first class, and everyone wants coffee, and they're upset they didn't get their first meal choice, when some people have no food at all. Or when because you're from another country of different languages and speech patterns, a disgruntled passenger mimics you by saying, "Excuse me darling, don't you ever tell me that it's not your fault!" while waving their index finger two feet away from your face. Then someone asks what did you do on your layover, asking if you went shopping and expecting this kind of fun and grandiose experience, when you know you used your last penny to bail your sister out of an enormous ticket. And, to add icing on the cake, just when you're thinking things are looking up because a man compliments you and says you should be a model, and you say, thank-you but my passion is writing and I study film, they respond with, "Listen, your life would be so much easier if you were a model. You're so beautiful and all men want is regular sex and cooked meals…in fact I'll make it simpler for you, they want a 'hoochi-mama' and a mother, so just tell them line up and take a number!" And he goes on to guffaw and stare at you like a pin-up doll for the rest of the flight wearing with a nasty grin.

Its days like this you can't have a melt-down; its days like this you've got to have a strong and positive perspective. Remember to have a reaction that pacifies and doesn't stir up more of what you're trying to get away from.

And you ask how? How can one possibly hold it together when, they just ripped a large hole in their stocking/pantyhose in the beginning of the day and everyone onboard is angry because they're going to miss their connections to Hawai'i? How do you keep it together when that summer course you've been planning to attend at NYU for months gets cancelled because your car breaks down and now you have to use the money to fix the car instead of furthering your education and dream career? How do you keep it together when the person you loved and married, cheated on you and had a child with a stranger instead of you? How do you keep it together when you give someone new a chance despite you being fearful of hurt and rejection and then after many months of bliss, the person suddenly disappears?

My darlings, we keep it together by remembering that whatever we go through is a lesson; a test and luckily not the final. It's a prerequisite to see how resilient, compassionate, loving and understanding we can behave in times of great stress.

So even if you are the one that sends someone poetry or an animated heart sms to brighten the one you fancy's day. Or perhaps you've been pleasant and fair and someone lashes out in an aggression-filled attack. And maybe if someone flirted with you incessantly to get your attention and you send them love and appreciation by giving them a box of chocolates and they say that it was delicious but they rather have less communication between the two of you because you seem too passionate. You wonder how will you ever keep it altogether!

Well, don't be afraid of giving up your control…remain mindful, share unconditional love, and remember the truth, but please darlings, let go! Just put your trust in the other person and whatever the situation is, for although their actions of life's situations may be unkind, unforgiving and upsetting. You are gaining your greatest lessons yet! Whenever someone is closer to greatness, obstacles are thrown in their way to try to make them give up or go off course. Stay on course my darlings; you're almost at your reward. Understanding that all you went through and had to go through was just to make sure you could withstand a higher altitude of surprises.

What perspective will you have when you're dished life's absurdities? For things fall, shatter and spill all over, but what shape does the liquid bear? Does it bear a heart shape by any chance? Do you sometimes have strangers remind you what a great person you are? Does a baby smile at you when you pass by? Do animals become more playful or follow you around? These are reminders that you are loved, by the Universe/God and by others you are too busy to recognize. To them, you are the world! A unique and precious being of light and love, their shoulder they'd be honoured to have you cry on, their hands, wanting to hold and give you warm strength and love…

Carry a positive perspective, remember the truth promised to you, stay on track, and always, always have compassion and unconditional love…

Bless-up! J

Jair